“I want my mom to be happy, but how do I know that her suitors don’t have ulterior motives?
I’m concerned that she’ll jump into another marriage and her second husband will take advantage of her financially.” Others are even more blunt. “My brother and I had been there for my father our whole lives. I didn’t want her to replace us in his will.” These are all valid concerns, but should you voice them to your surviving parent? Your mother or father likely knows that this can be a thorny issue and may initiate a conversation about it.
she was my best friend and it was an awful couple of years seeing her hurting and in so much pain. well, he started 'seeing' someone about 2 months after my mom passed.
that was pretty tough for me to deal with, but i tried not be upset about it.
“My mother started seeing a new man just eight months after my dad died,” Kate told me.
“Doesn’t it take a full year to work through grief?
i figured it was a way to distract himself from the pain.
now it's been close to 7 months since she passed and my dad keeps asking if i will meet this woman and hang out with her. it makes my skin crawl even to think that she has been to our house and to our family cabin up north with my dad.“He got started on online dating and I was really protective of him. I just didn’t want to see him get his heart broken again.” Some adult children are worried about how a new relationship will affect their own financial standing in the family.“Sure,” Patty told me of her mom’s recent dive back into the dating pool.How would you feel if a loved one told you that you shouldn’t want to enjoy companionship or intimacy?Give your parent credit for enduring a major stressful life change, and understand that they deserve happiness, too - whether that comes in the form of friendship, casual dating, sexual intimacy, a committed relationship, or a marriage. It can be difficult to bite your tongue when you suspect your parent may be making poor financial decisions.I was happy that she had found a partner and companion - someone to go on dinner and movie dates with, to take to family functions, and yes, even to enjoy physical intimacy with again.