If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
I'll share some ideas on how you can get into more deep conversations overall, but there's no method that I know of to get any particular people at any particular time to want to have a more in-depth discussion. If someone really likes sailing there's no sure-fire way they can get into a conversation about it whenever they want. They may be capable of conversing deeply, but only do it with their partner or closest friends.
There are a lot of reasons someone may not want to have a deeper conversation. And although it sounds a bit snobby, I don't think it's unreasonable to say some people just aren't as deep or intellectual as others.
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire.
Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
"After dating a know-it-all-type, another 29-year-old woman needed a reprieve from conversations that were always mind-numbingly specific and intense—and left her feeling exhausted.
"My ex was so smart that he made me feel dumb," she says.
Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say?
What roles do love and affection play in your life? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner.