And you’ve probably been shot down a time or two (or hundred).The best time to suggest something new is not on the car ride home but after she is very aroused.
“He does think of me when he’s away from me.” You get points when you’re not even there. Romance doesn’t mean: I brought you flowers, so I should get sex tonight. Romance creates a healthy romantic backdrop for a woman’s responsiveness. A man’s normal testosterone levels are 300-1,000 ng/d L serum blood.
It’s a tactical, practical thing you can do that adds to her feelings of connection. Parents of teenage girls are afraid of the 1,000 level, and at 300, a guy often seeks a sex therapist for low desire.
She likes it, she needs it but she only knows that once she’s having it. If you’re a sexual pursuer, you like to improve things.
You probably have fantastic ideas about how to spice sex up.
Don’t say, “Wow, I knew you’d really like if I could ever talk you into it.” Instead, be reassuring.
Say, “That was fantastic last night.” Leave the details until the next time she’s halfway up the mountain.
The exception to my above advice: don’t push against known sensibilities or moral views at a time when she’s aroused.
She will stop trusting to let down her guard and become aroused with you.
Gifts and flowers are like transitional objects standing in for your presence. As far as verbal suggestions, “Do you want to have sex? “Mmmm,” they think, “do I want to have sex…uh, no.” It’s the wrong question. Think about weightlifting with and without steroids.