Also, consider an STD test if you don’t know the health status of the person you hooked up with.
Although a drink or two may boost your confidence in bed, the negative effect of even a small amount of alcohol can have on erections is well-documented.
Without excellent blood flow, your erections don’t stand a chance.
Additionally, alcohol reduces the intensity of sensation, excitement, and orgasms.
All it takes is a quick look at the men’s health questions on countless forums such as answers.and Reddit to understand how common it is. If by the tenth time you try having sex you still can’t keep it up. Not unlike what occurs for some guys the first time they have sex, there’s an element of performance anxiety that can occur with a new partner. In many cases, the excitement often results in somewhat the opposite—premature ejaculation, but it’s also quite possible for your mind to get distracted by the newness itself and thus you lose control in one way or another.
And really, the first time you do anything isn’t going to go perfectly, and sex is no exception. Your brain, after all, is processing a lot of stuff all at once.
And you probably jumped through a few hoops of some sort to get yourself into that coveted situation in the first place.
Perhaps you’re one of those who has waited until his wedding night to have sex.
Whether it feels silly and absurd, or exhilarating and liberating, it definitely feels new, and your brain can easily get distracted by those new secondary sensations. This probably doesn’t indicate a problem, it was a minor mishap. The worst thing you could do is beat yourself up over it or worry that it will happen again.
Losing your erection the first time you have sex isn’t really that unusual, and it shouldn’t be surprising considering all that we talked about above.
That sense of pressure and anticipation goes double for that situation.
There’s a voice in your subconscious telling you not to mess this up. Consider also that up to this point, sexual expression for you had been mostly a solo activity engaged in in private.
Have you ever realized halfway into your fourth beer that you should have stopped after the second?