Still, life has to be a piece of cake when you have luxuries like a sport cruiser, high-end SUV, and breast implants. We run into people everyday who have zero appreciation for all that’s in their lives.But, most importantly, everyone in his family seemed strikingly healthy – the biggest blessing of all. Tool seemed oblivious to all of it, where apparently his life is so easy – read that, so lacking of appreciation – that his only concern is screaming at a 19-year-old, who makes an hour working his ass off – about his boat not being vacuumed. Tool’s forehead just to forewarn everyone he encounters. I was in line at Wal-Mart, and heard the clerk ask each person in front of me how he or she was?w=300&h=220" data-large-file="https://wheelchairjunkie.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/intimacy.jpg? w=614" src="https://wheelchairjunkie.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/intimacy.jpg? w=300&h=220" alt="" title="Couple on Beach" width="300" height="220" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1150" srcset="https://wheelchairjunkie.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/intimacy.jpg?
But, such superficial validation is never lasting (and often merely has negative results on our emotional issues in the long run – the validation leaves with the sex).
Sure, feeling desired in the moment can chase away all kinds of insecurities.
But, once the moment passes, all of our emotional struggles are still there, only magnified for the worse.
Put simply, physical sex for the wrong motives can often drive us farther apart from real intimacy with others, and emotionally isolate us further.
I read a wonderful quote that said, “Truly making love means allowing ourselves to be emotionally vulnerable and finding security and pleasure in it.” I see many of my peers – regardless of disability – who use sex as a way to avoid real feelings, or confuse it for feelings.
If we have esteem issues, body image issues, vulnerability issues, having sex is a quick, validating fix.
He’s allowed himself to lose humility and perspective by being blinded by good fortune.
The key, then, for all of us is to maintain a sense of perspective on our lives.
” But, the question was never asked, keeping on par with how skewed both our personal and cultural perspectives on sexuality are.
I mean, many question whether those with disabilities can have sex, and it’s an assumed that those who are able-bodied can have sex.
Yet, few ever ask anyone or ourselves, – which is a far bigger part of sexuality than the physicality of jumping in bed (which is absurdly easy).